I was constantly in fight-or-flight mode.
I felt pulled in multiple directions.
My nervous system was a wreck.
Hyper-vigilant thoughts kept me up at night.
I felt chained to my to-do lists.
I was burdened by others’ expectations and projections.
And I desperately wanted to take a vacation totally unplugged for once!
“Who am I really?”
“What is my purpose?”
“How can I feel fulfilled in my work?”
This was my A-Ha Moment, the catalyst that shocked me into realizing that I was chasing the shadows of “Surface Happiness” instead of actual happiness. And I wasn’t alone — many of the successful leaders were experiencing the same thing— they just weren’t talking about it because they feared they might look weak.
Interestingly, as a condition of the advice I was soliciting, I asked that no one suggest “meditation” as a solution, or I would punch them in the face! This was another A-Ha moment. Isn’t it interesting that what I had the most resistance to (and even threatened mild violence about) was the very solution that would help me turn around my life? Deep down, I must have known this already. Later, I found a quote from Joseph Campbell that describes this personal experience as a universal theme: “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”
So I did more research and found out there are more than 20 types of meditation, including visualization, guided meditations, breathwork meditations, affirmation meditation…you can even “walk and think” and that is called a walking meditation!
Then I learned about:
The inventors that used a form of meditation for new invention ideas…
The celebrities who use it to calm themselves before taking the stage…
The athletes that use visualization to win Olympic medals…
Obviously, monks weren’t the only ones doing this!
Then I learned about the science-based studies and benefits (I highlight these in the Free Guide, “Breaking Bad Decisions.”)
I persevered. I soon found myself being more patient, decisions were no longer rash, and I became more receptive to intuitive insights. The benefits of mindfulness started spilling into my professional life, helping me make decisions that genuinely benefitted my team and business. I even started to sleep better!
What I learned is that 95% of our decisions are made UNconsciously. This is because the decisions are simply made by default — influenced heavily by previous experiences, ingrained patterns, and built-in biases. This leads to reactive responses, rather than conscious choices grounded in the present reality.
I dug deeper into the enormous impacts of subconscious programming, emotional wounds, and even trauma - both minor and major - on individuals, their ability to lead, and on organizations as a whole.
With every piece of knowledge, clarity deepened. I started to notice patterns and behaviors in my life that I “thought” were my personality. I made a huge discovery — they weren’t part of my personality at all! Rather, they were reactionary, habitual behaviors that I created to navigate past difficulties.
People-pleasing sprang from a desire for external validation. Through mindfulness, I became more aware of my internal motivations and could make choices based on authentic desires rather than others’ approval. I also learned to set healthy boundaries.
Overachievement and proving myself came from deep-seated insecurities and the need to affirm my self-worth. Through mindfulness, I learned to accept myself and no longer feel a need to constantly prove my value. I also learned what really motivated me intrinsically.
Perfectionism flowed from fear of failure, criticism, and rejection. With mindfulness, I embraced imperfection, openness and vulnerability as part of the human experience.
Difficulty with emotions was deeply rooted in suppressing my feelings to avoid being seen as weak or losing control. Mindfulness helped me get more comfortable with all my emotions, so they no longer controlled my decisions.
Fear of being seen and speaking up arose from hypersensitivity to judgment. Mindfulness allowed me to separate others' perceptions from my own self-image.
Not knowing what I truly want came from adapting to please others at my own expense. Now I tune inward more to align with my authentic desires and values.
Reluctance to engage with others stemmed from past hurts that led to distrust. Through mindfulness, I learned to be more open and forgiving.
Judging and criticizing rose out of arrogance, insecurity and my own unresolved anger. I have more humility, patience and insight now.
It wasn't therapy, but mindfulness and meditation that triggered this evolution, specifically to:
Unlearn conditioning and unconscious patterns. I discovered how my reactions were often rooted not in the present moment, but rather in past fears and learned behaviors. With the techniques I discovered, I deprogrammed these patterns.
Cultivate self-trust. I learned to tune into my authentic self and connect with my needs, desires, and values at a deeper level and as well as deepen the bond with my intuition and purpose.
Reframe past experiences into novel perspectives and awareness. With mindfulness, I learned to revisit past experiences from a fresh viewpoint, releasing resentment and negativity and claiming the lessons they offered.
Express my thoughts, emotional states, and belief systems in a healthier, more authentic manner.
Ground myself in the present instead of being anchored by the past or anxious about the future.
Establish healthy boundaries. I learned to say 'no' when needed and 'yes' when my heart truly wanted to, creating a balance that respects both my needs and those of others.
Self-Acceptance. I learned to sit with my complex emotions, understand, and process them without spiraling down into judgment or guilt.
Enhance Decision-Making. Through mindfulness and meditation, I was able to turn down the noise of past conditioning and even current stressors. This clearer headspace empowered me to make decisions that were not just reactions but thoughtful responses anchored in my present reality and intuition.
What Was Really Driving My Decisions?
Remember those behavioral patterns I mentioned? Turns out, those "UNconscious" patterns were driving my decisions as a leader:
People-Pleasing: Leaders who constantly seek external validation risk making decisions based on the approval of others, rather than what is genuinely best for the organization.
Overachievement: Leaders driven by deep-seated insecurities may make choices based on constantly validating their self-worth, rather than aligning decisions with the team or company's needs.
Perfectionism: Fear of failure and criticism can lead perfectionist leaders to be overly cautious or risk-averse, potentially stunting innovation and growth.
Difficulty with Emotions: Leaders who suppress their feelings can become reactive rather than thoughtful in their decision-making, leading to choices that may not be in the best interest of their team or organization.
Fear of Being Seen: Leaders afraid of judgment may hesitate to make bold decisions, inhibiting the organization's potential for innovation and growth.
Lack of Self-Awareness: Leaders who consistently adapt to please others risk losing touch with their authentic desires and values, leading to decisions that may not resonate with their true leadership style or the needs of the organization.
Reluctance to Engage: Past hurts and distrust can cause leaders to act defensively or isolate themselves, obstructing effective collaboration and decision-making.
Judging and Criticizing: Leaders who harbor a habit of criticism, born out of arrogance or insecurity, risk making decisions that alienate team members and damage team cohesion.
Christie is the author of The Intuition-Led Business, an expert speaker on the
subconscious mind’s effects on decision-making and the founder of Conscious State University.
While Christie ran her own marketing firm, she helped sell more than $3 Billion dollars of products and services during 17 years of operation. Additionally, for her own business ventures, she has reached 8-figures in online sales.
Christie has consulted with several Fortune 500 and INC 500 companies as well as thousands more small businesses with 7-, 8- and 9-figure revenues.
Christie's clients have included companies in the education, technology, CPG, retail, health, legal and serviced-based industries as well as non-profit organizations.
Christie has an online reach of over 300,000 people across her LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, email list and podcast.
Christie is a dynamic speaker who has shared the stage with many New York Times best-selling authors.
Conscious State University aims to break this cycle by teaching neuroscience, mindfulness, meditation, breathwork and NLP techniques to help leaders and their teams "debug" their mental software. Our techniques facilitate transformational growth by training your people to calm their minds, gain clarity, and make conscious, forward-thinking decisions.
In the workplace, life-or-death situations are a rare event, so it’s our job to calm down this “guard dog” with proven techniques that allow your “wise owl,” or the brain’s prefrontal cortex— responsible for executive systems like decision-making—to take the reins and consciously choose a response. Learn more in our Free Guide, “Breaking Bad Decisions.”
Rewire Neural Pathways
Overcome Past Mental Programming
Improve Decision-Making
Develop Emotional Resilience
Collaborate Effectively
Reduce Workplace Stress
Increase Engagement
Cultivate Innovation
Improve decision-making and strategic thinking to navigate complex problems and make informed choices that align with their vision and goals.
Master a conscious mindset and breakthrough limiting beliefs, empowering team members to overcome obstacles, build resilience, and achieve lasting success.
Elevate leadership presence by fostering stronger relationships, managing conflicts, and inspiring their teams, while building a thriving company culture.
Cultivate work-life balance, while focusing on emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and mindset shifts that lead to increased fulfillment and success, both personally and professionally.
Conscious State University was founded by Christie Turley, an executive coach with more than 20 years experience empowering leaders to maximize their peak performance potential, assisting Fortune 500 executives, advising on inclusion and belonging initiatives, and spearheading high-profile ventures. Christie is also trained in science-backed methodologies such as NLP, mindfulness, meditation, breathwork and other techniques to facilitate lasting transformations. Her holistic perspective helps each team player to reconnect with their purpose, so they can lead with consciousness and presence.
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